President Gordon B. Hinckley's Challenge and Promise

President Gordon B. Hinckley said in a

worldwide leadership training meeting:

“I am convinced there is no other organization anywhere to match the Relief Society of this Church.

If they will be UNITED and speak with ONE VOICE,


10 January 2004, 20

Relief Society - A Restoration of an Ancient Form


“A Restoration of an Ancient Pattern”

Although the name may be modern date,

the institution is of ANCIENT ORIGIN.

We were told by our martyred prophet

that the same organization EXISTED

in the church ANCIENTLY.”

Eliza R. Snow

(Published in: “Daughters in My Kingdom”)

Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Our Book of Mormong Challenge...

As was announced on Sunday...
Our YOUTH have been challenged to read the Book of Mormon by 
30 April 2012.

Our Kalispell 3rd Ward decided to take on that 
same challenge! (smile)  Sunday, we
were given a copy of the schedule
so that we can meet this
I am posting the schedule in case you didn't get one...

Friday, January 27, 2012

Palms of My Hands...

"Behold, I have graven thee upon
the palms of my hands..."
1 Nephi 21:16
Isaiah 49

Saturday, January 21, 2012

Salad - Served At our Dinner

Some of you expressed how much you loved the salad
that was served at our Relief Society Dinner
on Tuesday Night...
Meridel sent me the recipe and I am posting this
for those of you who would like it:
(I for one...have saved it to my SALAD files!)

Colorful Mixed Salad
Yield: 6 servings

6 cups torn mixed salad greens
1 can (11 oz.) mandarin oranges, drained
1 small red onion, thinly sliced
4 radishes, thinly sliced
4 green onions, thinly sliced
1/3 cup dried cranberries
1/3 cup sunflower seeds (I used Soy Nuts)
1/3 cup crumbled feta or blue cheese
¾ cup cherry tomatoes, halved

Friday, January 20, 2012

Relief Society Dinner and Program

On Tuesday, 17 January 2012,
we had our New Year theme 
"Spiritual Rags to Spiritual Robes"
In spite of the weather - our first real snow storm of the year...
nearly 50 sisters attended our dinner and program...
THANK YOU to ALL who made this all possible...
Home made soups made by Relief Society Presidency...
Yummy Homemade braided breads by Diane Groves...
Colorful --- awesome salad by Meridel Barden...
Fantastic Cupcakes made by Heidi Stott, Jennifer Sherratt, Diane Groves
Decorations were done by Mona Okelberry
and our incredible YOUNG WOMEN who watch all the little children
so that all the mothers could enjoy the dinner and program...
We had 8 sisters create a different table setting...
The fun part...was to see how DIFFERENT 
each table setting was...

Janie Toren's table setting
However, Janie...we had to take off the beautiful
gold plates, because there was no room left
to place the bread and salads...
Should have taken the picture BEFORE we had to 
remove them...

 Shawna Wood - had a two sided message
for her center-piece!

Sabrina Dobson had this beautiful look!
Meridel Barden's Single Rose pattern...
Loved the little rose...on each plate!
Jill Normandeau's SUNNY YELLOW!
LOVED the flowers and little YELLOW BIRD!
Melanie Labrum's table with BEAUTIFUL
FLOWERS! Nothing like FLOWERS to turn a wintery
night...into SPRING!

Grace Guest, also, had a gorgeous setting...
but, I forgot to take another picture...
I was waiting for her to bring a new
center piece...cause the other one left no room
for bread and salad, either...
Hard to see it in this picture...
but this was her setting...
Sitting around her table are:
(L to R) Sabrina Dobson; Keely Remington; Shanna Kaltschmidt;
Gina Boyes; Diane Groves; Grace Guest; Connie Quick

 (L to R) Amy Hardman; Mary Lou Hartman; Ellie Mullen;
Martha Reading; Mona Okelberry; Jaime Root; Pat Turner
The sisters behind this table...I FORGOT
to take their PICTURE! I am so sorry!
I can only see Anita Denney; Christy Borders; Sylvia Luehr;
and I can't tell who else is at that table! apologies!

(L to R) Anna Holmes; Lindsey Woodruff; Stefanie Walter;
Heather Allred; Shawn Fuller; Lynn Billedeaux; Kris Brown

(L to R) Debbie Perrone; Diane Denney; Jennifer Sherratt; 
Heidi Stott; Julie Denney; Amber Clark; Kari Beagley

 Melanie Labrum and Amy Robinson

(L to R) Wendy Storey; Christine Hoyle; Sheryl Ruggles;
Jill Normandeau

Sheryl Ruggles and Me
Amy Hardman (Left) and Gina Boyes (Right)
sang one of my very favorite songs...
"Emma" - a song about the Prophet Joseph Smith's Wife

I have posted the song before...I will do it here, again...
WISH we could have RECORDED Amy and Gina!
They did a super BEAUTIFUL JOB!
Also, THANK YOU...Shanna Kaltschmidt
for playing the PIANO! 
Really was BEAUTIFUL

Here is the song "Emma"

 Our "Spiritual Rags to Spiritual Robes" 
THANKS to Kari Beagley for working
on these booklets!
They turned out WONDERFUL!

We will only be able to shed our
"Spiritual Rags to Spiritual Robes"
through Jesus Christ

A Refuge in these Difficult Days

Sister Julie B. Beck: A refuge in these difficult days

Published: Tuesday, Jan. 17, 2012

Quorums and Relief Societies are meant to be a safety and a refuge in these difficult days and to support and strengthen the identity, roles and responsibilities of Heavenly Father's sons and daughters, said Sister Julie B. Beck on Jan. 17.
"What the Lord envisioned regarding quorums and Relief Society has not yet been fully utilized," said the Church's Relief Society general president. "Many quorums and Relief Societies are at present much like sleeping giants waiting for you to breathe new life into them."

Photo by Mark A. Philbrick, BYU
Sister Julie B. Beck, Relief Society general president, speaks at a Brigham Young University devotional on Jan. 17, 2012.

Speaking to thousands of BYU students gathered in the BYU Marriott Center for a campus devotional assembly, Sister Beck explained why Latter-day Saints are organized into quorums and Relief Societies. "Inasmuch as the Lord chose to organize us in this way, it is important for us to seek for a greater understanding as to why we are thus organized and then to seek to fulfill the vision He has for us," said Sister Beck.

She said many people have the mistaken identity that a priesthood quorum and a Relief Society is "merely a class or a place to sit during the third hour of Church on Sunday," when, in fact, "being part of a Relief Society or quorum is a designation for a way of life." 

She said the purposes of Relief Society are "to increase faith and personal righteousness, strengthen families and homes, and seek out and provide relief for those who are in need." The purposes of the quorum, she added, are "to serve others, build unity and brotherhood, instruct quorum members in the doctrines and principles of the gospel, and watch over the Church."

Sister Beck said she drew from the scriptures and the words of prophets to illustrate five important reasons Latter-day Saints are organized into quorums and Relief Societies:
One of the reasons the Church has quorums and Relief Societies is to organize its members under the priesthood and after the pattern of the priesthood, she said. "Our God is a God of order, and all that He does to build His kingdom He does through His priesthood patterns," she said.

One of the patterns is the organization of wards and stakes, each with a geographic boundary, explained Sister Beck. "Each ward is guided by a bishop who holds the keys, or the Lord's authority, for his ward. He is the shepherd of the Lord's flock within his ward and has the charge to see to the temporal and spiritual needs of that flock. … His responsibility is monumental and is the more difficult because he is only one man who cannot possibly watch over all of the sheep at once. The quorum and Relief Society leaders are seen by the bishop as undershepherds who magnify, enhance, and distribute his watchcare."

Sister Beck explained that the formation of a presidency, sustaining those who are called to lead, and receiving revelation are also priesthood patterns.

"When Joseph Smith organized Relief Society, he said the sisters were 'to get instruction through the order which God has established — through the medium of those appointed to lead.' This ability and promise regarding personal revelation is one of the remarkable blessings that come to every quorum and Relief Society presidency. The Lord said that each of us was to learn our duty and act in the office to which we are appointed, He provided a way for us to do just that."

A second reason Church members are organized into quorums and Relief Societies is to focus Heavenly Father's sons and daughters on the work of salvation and to engage them in it, said Sister Beck.
"Quorums and Relief Societies are an organized discipleship with the responsibility to assist in our Father's work to bring about eternal life for His children. We are not in the entertainment business; we are in the salvation business," she said.

The work of salvation includes missionary work, retaining those who are converted, participating in family history work and temple work, improving temporal and self-reliance and taking care of the poor and needy. "These are honorable and heavy responsibilities," she said. "They connote a sacred trust and imply a significant contribution to the Lord's work of salvation, a work that is both a burden and a blessing. ...
"When we are organized into Relief Societies and quorums, our personal discipleship is extended and we become engaged with others in the saving work that was modeled by the Savior. It is never modest or inconsequential. It forces us to a higher path of discipleship and a greater spiritual maturity."

Sister Beck said the Lord's work of salvation is "guided by the Spirit, who confirms our actions, assures us of the Lord's approval, and supplies the true joy that comes with an affirmation of our success."

A third reason Church members are organized into quorums and Relief Societies is to help bishops wisely manage the Lord's storehouse, she said.

"The Lord's storehouse includes the time, talents, compassion, materials and financial means of the members of the Church," she said. "The talents of the Saints are to be used to help care for the poor and the needy and to build the Lord's kingdom."
Bishops, she explained, have charge of the Lord's storehouse, and they depend on the quorums and Relief Societies to help them seek out and care for all in their wards.
Sister Beck said if Church members were left to themselves, they might prefer to care only for the popular, charming and grateful people in their wards. "It is much more challenging to care for those who are difficult to love, who have grave and complicated challenges, or who do not seem to appreciate our help."
One of the most significant ways this kind of watchcare is apportioned is through home teaching and visiting teaching, she explained.

A fourth reason why Church members are organized into quorums and Relief Societies is to provide a defense and a refuge for Heavenly Father's children and their families in the latter days, said Sister Beck.

"We are all in the midst of a mortal experience," she said. "We all chose this experience, and the Lord will ensure that we all have one. An age-old anti-Christ deception implies that people who are smart enough or rich enough can avoid challenges. This is not so. … As our times become ever more difficult, the faithful brothers and sisters in the quorums and Relief Societies are to protect the homes of Zion from the shrill voices of the world and the provocative influence of the adversary."

Sister Beck told the students that whatever their mortal experience, they can have a feeling of fellowship and the support and strength of many around them. "It is in the sisterhood of Relief Society and the brotherhood of the quorums that we should find refuge and protection from the storms of life and calamities of the latter days," she said.

The fifth purpose for being organized into quorums and Relief Societies is to strengthen and support Later-day Saints in their family roles and responsibilities as sons and daughters of God, said Sister Beck.
"Though many of our responsibilities in the Church are parallel, Heavenly Father's sons and daughters each have unique and distinct responsibilities in the family and in the Church. Quorums and Relief Societies are to teach our Heavenly Father's sons and daughters and inspire them to prepare for the blessings of eternal life," she said. "Our Father sees the potential of His sons and His daughters to be family leaders. Therefore, everything we do in quorums and Relief Societies is to help the Lord with His mission of preparing His children for the blessings of the eternal life He envisions for us. In these settings we are meant to learn how to become part of our Heavenly Father's eternal family."

She said the quorum and the Relief Society assist family leaders and future family leaders and "help them establish patterns and practices of righteous behavior and covenant keeping in their lives."
The work of the quorum and Relief Society clarifies the unique identities and responsibilities of sons and daughters of God and unifies them in defense of His plan, Sister Beck said. "Each of us is a beloved daughter or son of God with sacred responsibilities," she explained. "In our quorums and Relief Societies we are to be taught and inspired to become who our Father in Heaven created us to become."

Thursday, January 19, 2012

Let Us All Speak Kind Words to Each Other....

My daughter posted this on her experience she
had when her children began bickering with one 

January 18, 2012

Kind Words - An Observation

I am no parenting expert, that much is so ridiculously obvious I really didn't even need to say it. But on occasion, I am capable of making an astute observation that helps me out in my chosen profession.

Before I became a parent, I would have sworn up and down, side to side and on a stack of chocolate that I would never yell at my children. Like, never ever.

*snort* Amateur.

While perhaps I may not be raise my voice all the time, and I certainly never yell mean and terrible things at them, on occasion the volume on my voice box does get away from me. Once I had done it, it was easy to do again. Seems like one you cross that line, it's so hard to back step across it.

Dang. I hereby vote for do-overs! And start-overs! And popovers! Wait....

But still, I try. I really do try.

One evening, as I was preparing dinner, the boys started going at it. They were flinging angry comments back and forth and it was escalating fast.

The girls decided they just couldn't be left out and had to throw in a few choice words of their own, which only fueled the situation.

I have taken to yelling above such noise to get every one's attention, but I really hate doing that. It does nothing to diffuse the situation, it only makes me upset and the kids, while they may break up the fighting, still remain in bad spirits. Still, it's often just the reaction that springs up.

Well on this particular night, I did something that I had no idea I was even going to do until I was doing it.

Speaking calmly and just loud enough to be heard so the kids knew I was talking, I said:

"You know, I think Alayna is really cute when she smiles."

A couple of the kids stopped yelling and turned to me.

"And I really think Jacob has the best laugh ever."

It was seriously incredible. At this point all of the kids stopped what they were doing and stood watching me, obviously waiting to hear what I was going to say about the next child.

"I think Joseph can say some of the sweetest things when he wants to."

A smile here, a giggle there.

"And Savannah is the best helper ever. She is just so great."

I said all this while still calmly preparing the food.

There were several seconds of silence before the kids turned back to each other. Savannah started doing her homework quietly, the boys went off to play, and Alayna went back to her coloring.

There really wasn't any kind of grand acknowledgement of what happened, except to myself. The kids stopped fighting, everyone was in a better mood, and I didn't even have to raise my voice.


The power of kind words.

Do I do this all the time? No. Should I do this more often? Definitely. Will it work every time? Most likely not.

But it won't hurt to try.

"Be patient with yourself. Perfection comes not in this life, but in the next life. Don't demand things that are unreasonable, but demand of yourself improvement. As you let the Lord help you through that He will make the difference." - Elder Russell M. Nelson

Just sayin'.

"Spiritual Rags to Spiritual Robes"

 Spiritual Rags to Spiritual Robes

Our Kalispell 3rd Ward Relief Society THEME this year…is
“Spiritual Rags to Spiritual Robes”…

I reread…President Thomas S. Monson’s “Living the Abundant Life” and his CHALLENGE to all the Saints this year…to UNDERTAKE a PERSONAL, diligent, SIGNIFICANT QUEST --- for an ABUNDANT LIFE…FILLED with an abundance of success, goodness, and blessings…

Sisters…this is how we will change out our “Spiritual Rags...” for “Spiritual Robes”…

He gave us the ABCs to achieve our goals:
I so believe…our THEME this year…is in line with the CHALLENGE the Lord is requiring of us to do…

These were some of the things that JUMPED out at me…though, each of us are entitled to our OWN PERSONAL REVELATION for our own UNIQUE circumstances…

  • Inner attitude of MY MIND – can change the OUTER ASPECT of MY LIFE!
  • Do the BEST I can…
  • Choose to be HAPPY – no matter WHAT my circumstances – PEACE and CONTENTMENT will be my BLESSING…
  • I can NOT control what TESTS come my way…for I will need to be PROVED…and will be TESTED in ALL THINGS…but, I can ADJUST my ATTITUDE…and CHOOSE how I am going to HANDLE my challenge…

  • I am to BELIEVE IN ME!
  • I am to BELIEVE in OTHERS!
  • I must SERVE my God…with ZEAL!
  • “MY LIFE IS MY MESSAGE!” --- Gandhi

·        COURAGE – the willingness and DETERMINATION to LIVE DECENTLY!
·        I must be BRAVE to follow my course…
·        There will be times when I could get discouraged and even frightened…but DAVID did BEAT GOLIATH! and SO WILL I!
·        It takes GREATER COURAGE to make a SECOND EFFORT… when I STUMBLE the FIRST TIME!
·        I must say to myself…I WILL TRY AGAIN TOMORROW!


Sunday, January 15, 2012

"I am come that they might have LIFE,
and that they might have it
---John 10:10

"CHRIST has come that "I" might have LIFE,
and that "I" might have it
---John 10:10
"...likened the scriptures unto myself"...

Tuesday, January 10, 2012

You Are Somebody of Intrinsic Worth

"Every woman is special, a somebody of intrinsic worth 
who has been a somebody for a very long time, indeed forever.
Every child of God, born of divine heritage in the spirit before this world
was formed, enters mortal life already a special eternal person.
Each has already proved herself in lengthy and demanding periods of trial,
has chosen the right course and pursued it with faith and courage,
and comes here with credentials earned in 
action elsewhere."
Elder Marion D. Hanks
Page 102

Friday, January 6, 2012

We Become...

We become what we want to be 
by consistently being what we want to become 
each day. 
Richard G. Scott

Monday, January 2, 2012

We Are Going to do Something Extraordinary!

I wanted to recap our Relief Society lesson, yesterday...for those who could not attend our class...It will be very brief, but I hope to write out the essence of the lesson...

Our lesson was based on the Preface of "Daughters in My Kingdom"...

I was struck by the statement Sister Emma Smith made in the first Relief Society meeting...She said, "We are going to do something extraordinary."
As I pondered on HOW do we accomplished the "extraordinary"...I felt the answer was found in the Book of Mormon...
Speaking of the sons of Mosiah after a 14 year mission:

Alma 17 - VERSE 2 ... "they were still his brethren in the Lord; yea, and they had waxed STRONG in the KNOWLEDGE of the TRUTH; for they were men of a SOUND UNDERSTANDING and they had SEARCHED the SCRIPTURES DILIGENTLY, that they might KNOW the WORD OF GOD."

VERSE 3... "But this is not all; they had given themselves to MUCH PRAYER and FASTING; therefore they had the SPIRIT of PROPHECY, and the SPIRIT of REVELATION, and when they TAUGHT, they TAUGHT with POWER and AUTHORITY of GOD."

This dear sisters is the FORMULA to becoming:
  • To have the SPIRIT of PROPHECY and REVELATION and to be able to TEACH with POWER and AUTHORITY OF GOD - we must PRAY OFTEN and FAST OFTEN...
Father KNOWS us...HIS DAUGHTERS - LOVES US...and TRUSTS us with "sacred responsibilities" and will GUIDE US as to HOW to FULFILL our responsibilities...

Sister Belle S. Spafford, the ninth Relief Society general President, said: “The average woman today, I believe, would do well to appraise her interests, evaluate the activities in which she is engaged, and then take steps to simplify her life, putting things of first importance first, placing emphasis where the rewards will be greatest and most enduring, and ridding herself of the less rewarding activities.”

Alma also taught: “By small and simple things are great things brought to pass.” (Alma 37:6)

We collectively and individually can and will do "extraordinary things…

Sunday, January 1, 2012

LIVE the Abundant Life!

First Presidency Message

Living the Abundant Life

By President Thomas S. Monson


Living the Abundant Life

At the advent of a new year, I challenge Latter-day Saints everywhere to undertake a personal, diligent, significant quest for what I call the abundant life—a life filled with an abundance of success, goodness, and blessings. Just as we learned the ABCs in school, I offer my own ABCs to help us all gain the abundant life.

Have a Positive Attitude

A in my ABCs refers to attitude. William James, a pioneering American psychologist and philosopher, wrote, “The greatest revolution of our generation is the discovery that human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives.”1
So much in life depends on our attitude. The way we choose to see things and respond to others makes all the difference. To do the best we can and then to choose to be happy about our circumstances, whatever they may be, can bring peace and contentment.
Charles Swindoll—author, educator, and Christian pastor—said: “Attitude, to me, is more important than … the past, … than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill. It will make or break a company, a church, a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.”2
We can’t direct the wind, but we can adjust the sails. For maximum happiness, peace, and contentment, may we choose a positive attitude.

Believe in Yourself

B is for believe—in yourself, in those around you, and in eternal principles.
Be honest with yourself, with others, and with your Heavenly Father. One who was not honest with God until it was too late was Cardinal Wolsey who, according to Shakespeare, spent a long life in service to three sovereigns and enjoyed wealth and power. Finally, he was shorn of his power and possessions by an impatient king. Cardinal Wolsey cried:
Had I but served my God with half the zeal
I served my king, He would not in mine age
Have left me naked to mine enemies.3
Thomas Fuller, an English churchman and historian who lived in the 17th century, penned this truth: “He does not believe that does not live according to his belief.”4
Don’t limit yourself and don’t let others convince you that you are limited in what you can do. Believe in yourself and then live so as to reach your possibilities.
You can achieve what you believe you can. Trust and believe and have faith.

Face Challenges with Courage

C is for courage. Courage becomes a worthwhile and meaningful virtue when it is regarded not so much as a willingness to die manfully but as a determination to live decently.
Said the American essayist and poet Ralph Waldo Emerson: “Whatever you do, you need courage. Whatever course you decide on, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising that tempt you to believe that your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires some of the same courage that a soldier needs. Peace has its victories, but it takes brave men and women to win them.”5
There will be times when you will be frightened and discouraged. You may feel that you are defeated. The odds of obtaining victory may appear overwhelming. At times you may feel like David trying to fight Goliath. But remember—David did win!
Courage is required to make an initial thrust toward one’s coveted goal, but even greater courage is called for when one stumbles and must make a second effort to achieve.
Have the determination to make the effort, the single-mindedness to work toward a worthy goal, and the courage not only to face the challenges that inevitably come but also to make a second effort, should such be required. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says, “I’ll try again tomorrow.”
May we remember these ABCs as we begin our journey into the new year, cultivating a positive attitude, a belief that we can achieve our goals and resolutions, and the courage to face whatever challenges may come our way. Then the abundant life will be ours.

Teaching from This Message

Consider inviting family members to share personal experiences when a positive attitude, belief in themselves, or courage helped them. Or invite them to find examples of these three principles in the scriptures. You might prepare to teach by prayerfully thinking of scriptures or experiences of your own.

Courage to Weather the Storm

By Maddison Morley
On the second night of my stake’s Young Women camp, we had a big rainstorm and tornado. My ward had about 24 young women attending the camp with two leaders, and we all had to fit into one small cabin for protection. The rain was falling hard, and the wind was getting worse. I had to continually remind myself of the prayer for safety our stake president had offered earlier. Our ward also said our own group prayer in our cabin, and I said my own personal prayers.
A lot of girls were scared, and it was easy to see why. Our cabin was not very sturdy, and we were right by a river. In about 20 minutes the storm got so bad that the whole stake had to run from their ward cabins to the counselors’ cabins, which were on higher ground. My stake president said another prayer, and we sang hymns, Primary songs, and camp songs in an attempt to comfort ourselves. Yes, we were scared, but we felt that everything would be all right. Half an hour later it was OK to go back to our ward cabins.
We later found out what had happened to the tornado that night. It had split into two storms. One of them went around us to the right and the other to the left. What we got wasn’t even the worst of it!
I know that God heard our prayers that night and that He protected us from the worst of the storm. Why would a tornado split unless God needed it to? I know that in the storms of life, we can always pray to Heavenly Father and He will hear and answer us, giving us the courage and protection we need to make it safely through.

Captain Moroni

Captain Moroni had courage as he faced challenges. He loved truth, liberty, and faith. He devoted his life to helping the Nephites preserve their freedom. You can be like Captain Moroni by facing your challenges with courage. You can even make your own title of liberty by writing on the flag below or on a separate piece of paper the things that are important to you and your family.

Where to Find Out More

Alma 46:11–27: The title of liberty
Alma 48:11–13, 16–17: Moroni’s qualities